Comments on: Who works harder? http://www.thirtyoneblog.com/2007/09/21/who-works-harder/ Thoughts of a modern day Proverbs 31 woman and wife Thu, 20 Nov 2008 22:00:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: amy http://www.thirtyoneblog.com/2007/09/21/who-works-harder/#comment-127 amy Mon, 24 Sep 2007 15:38:53 +0000 http://www.thirtyoneblog.com/2007/09/21/who-works-harder/#comment-127 so funny that you posted about this now....cj and i are always in a back and forth (mostly in jest..mostly) about who works harder during the day. i'm pretty confident that he'd drop dead in a matter of a week if he had my job at home with the kiddos :) but i think that's the point..and you hit it. each of us is created to do something unique, just as we are all uniquely designed. while i can give you a list of 100 "pros/cons" each way there's nothing i'd rather be doing. and i think in respect to a marriage it's just like anything else and takes lots of communication about needs and taking the other persons perspective, feelings, etc into consideration each day. easier said than done bc we are also created with some twisted competitive edge and need to always be right, lol :) so funny that you posted about this now….cj and i are always in a back and forth (mostly in jest..mostly) about who works harder during the day. i’m pretty confident that he’d drop dead in a matter of a week if he had my job at home with the kiddos :) but i think that’s the point..and you hit it. each of us is created to do something unique, just as we are all uniquely designed. while i can give you a list of 100 “pros/cons” each way there’s nothing i’d rather be doing. and i think in respect to a marriage it’s just like anything else and takes lots of communication about needs and taking the other persons perspective, feelings, etc into consideration each day. easier said than done bc we are also created with some twisted competitive edge and need to always be right, lol :)

]]> By: holly http://www.thirtyoneblog.com/2007/09/21/who-works-harder/#comment-106 holly Sat, 22 Sep 2007 21:11:48 +0000 http://www.thirtyoneblog.com/2007/09/21/who-works-harder/#comment-106 <i>And why would you want to “win”? Aren’t we better off appreciating our own jobs,/i> The previous reply is why you would want to "win". Then you get that resource you both expect. At some point you realize it is really silly though. I've also heard similar arguments in blogs about the corporate world vs academia over whose is harder. I can't find the quote I'm looking for. And why would you want to “win”? Aren’t we better off appreciating our own jobs,/i>

The previous reply is why you would want to “win”. Then you get that resource you both expect. At some point you realize it is really silly though.

I’ve also heard similar arguments in blogs about the corporate world vs academia over whose is harder. I can’t find the quote I’m looking for.

]]> By: holly http://www.thirtyoneblog.com/2007/09/21/who-works-harder/#comment-105 holly Sat, 22 Sep 2007 20:57:41 +0000 http://www.thirtyoneblog.com/2007/09/21/who-works-harder/#comment-105 <i>I have to wonder why we even have these conversations. It’s not an argument that can be won</i> I agree - it is a bit pointless to argue this stuff among friends and message boards. It seems like it is all about who is more important with more difficult = more important. However, this type of discussion between spouses happen when real tangible resources are at stake (in situations when one spouse works). For example, if a child vomits at 4 in the morning, then whose responsibility is it to get up? On Friday night when both have been invited out by their respective girl/guy friends, who gets to go out and who stays home with the kids? (There is no right answer). But then the "my job is harder, I deserve the time off" or "I have to get up tomorrow" said by both happens and all the sudden it's more than respect on some message board, it's fighting over scant resources that most people in otherwise happy marriages seem to do, regardless of how they prepare themselves to avoid it.... I have to wonder why we even have these conversations. It’s not an argument that can be won

I agree - it is a bit pointless to argue this stuff among friends and message boards. It seems like it is all about who is more important with more difficult = more important.

However, this type of discussion between spouses happen when real tangible resources are at stake (in situations when one spouse works). For example, if a child vomits at 4 in the morning, then whose responsibility is it to get up? On Friday night when both have been invited out by their respective girl/guy friends, who gets to go out and who stays home with the kids? (There is no right answer). But then the “my job is harder, I deserve the time off” or “I have to get up tomorrow” said by both happens and all the sudden it’s more than respect on some message board, it’s fighting over scant resources that most people in otherwise happy marriages seem to do, regardless of how they prepare themselves to avoid it….

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